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I really liked this idea I saw for framing the words “I love you because: ______” and then a hand written response filled in.
In marriage it is so easy to get caught up in a bad day and maybe even on a really bad day jokingly ask yourself, “why did I marry this person?” My husband and I are pretty good about loving each other the way we need and feel love according to our love languages as I spoke about in a post here. It is a great reminder to tell ourselves and and our spouse all the things that we love about them, the little things that we maybe take for granted or even forget about as we journey through this life together. So, after seeing the idea I decided it was a must have for us, but with my own spin on it.
So first I pondered on were to put it. I even contemplated making two- one for me to write on and one for him, so we both had some lovin’ going on. I was going to put in on each side of our bed, but realized the chances of it ever actually getting written on there and both getting written on, seemed kind of slim. So after some more though…I decided one frame would be enough and then we could just take turns writing messages to each other. The one spot where we actually seemed to have time to do this and not really much else going on to steal our attention was…..the bathroom. Right next to our friendly friend Mr. John…what better place to find loving messages from your spouse : ) haha. After looking for frames that would be easily placed on and removed from the wall and not being able to find such I ended up settling on a smaller size, that ended up working much better for its placement on the small wall in reach from the toilet. At Michael’s I found a smaller square frame that matched our bathroom colors and even had a perfect pretty ribbon to hang it. The frame was $7.99, but with my 50% off coupon and 10% Friday discount (yay for professors being included!) it ended up being under $4! P.E.R.F.E.C.T! Everything else I needed to make this I already had at home.
I found a piece of coordinating scrapbook paper (I liked my lined one for writing purposes), designed my layout and printed it on the paper, and them put it all together. The next step was deciding how to make the dry erase marker easily accessible. I had several kinds and colors of markers. I liked the capped kind that had a little clip to hook to the ribbon, and then we could just use toilet paper to erase our messages, after try that for a few days decided to go with my other smaller markers that conveniently has the eraser on the other side of the marker, but no clip for the ribbon, but…. it did have a magnet on it. So I pulled out some magnet backing and glued it to the side of the frame, and wallah! And for just a little more “pretty” I wrapped the marker in coordinating scrapbook paper to complete the product. PS- For sanitary purposes, all writing is to be done PRIOR to the bathroom clean up business ; )
We have been using this fun little loving frame for the past couple of weeks. I love finding my little messages in the morning to brighten my day : ) I don’t know that my husband loves his messages as much as I do (essentially this is a Words of Affirmation love language), but he certainly gets more of his style of live when I am glowing from his messages : )
*This could also be adapted to be used with children, or the whole family in a common space, too.
What do you love about your spouse or partner? What ideas have you don’t in your own home to proclaim these?
For many, Father’s Day is a wonderful time where we get together and honor our fathers- the men in our lives who raised us,loved us unconditionally, and mean so much to us. For daughters, it’s a time where we pay tribute to that first man who had our heart and the one to whom we remind, we will always be his little girl. In fact, many of us may spend our dating lives trying to find a soul mate that reminds of our father, and we may wait in excitement to hear of Daddy’s approval. The father-daughter bond is a special relationship we hold near and dear and deem irreplaceable.
For me, Father’s Day is one quite the opposite. It is the holiday I dread. The holiday where it pains me to look at the card section, a place I normally love, as I look for the “perfect card”, because none ever fit; none are ever perfect, or even close. It’s not uncommon to see me sitting on the floor of Walgreen’s weeping as I thumb through them all and keep returning each card as soon as I see loving pictures of a father and daughter or read the words “daddy’s little girl”, “you always made me feel loved”, “so many wonderful memories”, “you are the best”, “my rock and my strength”, “thank you for all you do”, etc. All I really want is a card with no fluff, no proclamations of gratitude, and no commentary about how special the relationship is. I just want a simple “Thinking of you, Happy Father’s Day” card. That’s it. Because for me, I am not picking out a card that will be handed to him with a gift, or surrounded by family, or while sharing special “just the two of us” time. I am picking out a card that will only be signed, “With love, Kevin & Heathyr”- no extra writing filling up all the “white space” like I do on all my other cards. I am picking out a card that will just be mailed to an address, a place I have not been in over 3 years. I am picking out a card that I don’t even know he will ever receive. I am picking out a card just to let him know I am still alive, that I am here, and I am reaching out, waiting and hoping to someday be contacted in return.
It has been over 3 years since I last spoke with the man who biologically is my father. The last time I heard his voice was in April of 2008, a couple of month before my wedding, when he spoke the most hurtful and still at this point for me, unforgivable words. After spending 30 minutes telling me how awful I was and later leaving a voicemail on my then soon-to-be husband’s phone saying the same about me, he proceeded to inform me that he would not be attending our wedding, all because I was choosing to walk down a staircase, and I would not be letting him walk me down an aisle. The last time I saw his face was in March of 2008 during a bad mtg prior to that phone call, until last fall when Kevin and I were at a niece’s band competition and we saw him walking by down on the track and I sat viewing from the bleachers and struggling to breathe and hiding in Kevin’s lap shaking, suffering from a panic attack, for fear of that man who is my father seeing me. My mind raced with thoughts and questions, “What would we do if he saw us?”, “What if he did see us, but chose not to say anything?”, “What would we say?”, “How can I get out of here with out him seeing us?, “What if he comes back?”.
My parents divorced when I was 2 and this man who is my father was not a part of my life for a long time. My step-father was around and gave me that love, but 6 years ago he passed away. My father eventually came back into my life and we developed a very close relationship, for which I was very thankful to have him back in my life. Then he remarried and things changed again. And as I came down those stairs that June Saturday, the day before Father’s Day, and my father-in-law waited at the bottom, where my father should have been, to walk me to the man I would be marrying, his son, I looked out for my own father, deep inside of me, despite my hurt and anger, hoping he would be sitting there. He wasn’t. And now, we have gone on living our lives as husband and wife, getting the job of my dreams, buying our first new house together, celebrating birthdays and holidays, and he has missed out on all of it.
One of the things I love most about my husband is that I know he will be an amazing father, always. A father to our children, a father I didn’t have. A father who won’t forget his own child’s birthday. A father is is always around. A father who won’t kick his child and fiance out of the house on Christmas Eve because of anger about the holiday arrangements. A father than won’t love conditionally. And if he has a daughter, I know she will be blessed to look at Father’s Day the way so many do, and pick out those cards that I wish fit for my own father.
For over 3yrs. I have continued to send birthday cards, Christmas cards, and Father’s Day cards…and have yet to hear anything from him. Perhaps I never will. Perhaps someday when he sees the picture of his first and only grandchild he will contact me in return. Or maybe he won’t.
I know I need to fully forgive and take the extra step of going beyond mail, and actually attempt phone contact with him, but at this point I just don’t know what I would say, and quite honestly don’t know if I am ready or wanting. He ended our relationship and cut off all ties; I want him to initiate putting it back together, or at least return a card so I know he cares. Maybe he doesn’t. That’s a truth I am not ready to face.
There is a song by Christ August that tugs so hard at me and so close to my heart. I know I need to be in this place, but I honestly am not. I know I need to get there, but I am not. I continue to pray that I will get to this place, and that some day I can buy those cards that fill the Walgreen’s slots that every Father’s Day, and week around our June 14th wedding anniversary, I find myself a heart-broken 20-something year old daughter sitting on the floor weeping about the man I don’t have in my life.
“7×70 Times” I pray I will be singing these words and that there will be healing. To watch the powerful video, go here.
I’ve Been living in this huose here
Since the day that I was born
These walls have seen me happy
But most of all they’ve seen me torn
They’ve heard the screaming matches
That made a family fall apart
They’ve had a front row seat
To the breaking of my heart
7 times 70 times
I’ll do what it takes to make it right
I thought the pain was here to stay
But forgiveness made a way
7 times 70 times
There’s healing in the air tonight
I’m reaching up to pull it down
Gonna wrap it all around
I remember running down the hallway
I didn’t know that that I was searching
For someone to notice me
I felt alone and undiscovered
and old enough to understand
Just when i was supposed to be learning to love you
Let me doubt again
I lost count of the ways you let me down
But no matter how many times you wern’t around
I’m all right now
GOD picked up my heart and helped me through
And shined a light on the one thing left to do
And that I forgive you
I forgive you
7 times 70 times
If That’s the cost I’ll pay the price
7 times 70 times
I’ll do what it takes to make it right
I thought the pain was here to stay
But forgiveness made a way
Until that day, I continue to smile upon the memories of the love my step-father stepped in and showed, be blessed by a wonderful father-in-law who shows me more love than my own father and raised a man who I can’t wait to be a father to our own children, and most importantly, be thankful for the best love of a father, more love than I deserve- that of my heavenly Father. For it is He, who is more than anything even our worldly fathers can be to us.
“Biology is the least of what makes someone a father.” – (adapted from Oprah’s quote on mothers)
What is your relationship like with your father? Is there anyone or anything you need to forgive?
I am ashamed to admit it, but I am OUT-OF-SHAPE. A couple of years ago I decided to make a change in my life to be healthier and fit. I can’t honestly say that I have ever really been in-shape but I certainly didn’t feel as disgusting as I feel now. But, anyways, after getting married I packed on the pounds I had lost and decided to make a change- i told everyone that I would be running a 5K the next summer. For several months back in 2009 I was doing a great job at detoxing, eating healthier, and running everyday with my Couch-to-5K plan. This was the first time I really was feeling good about myself and noticing a difference in how I looked and how I felt. That first time I got to buy pants a size smaller was such an encouragement and just the boost I needed to keep going. So, I gathered a few of my girl friends and they joined me in running. Unfortunately, that summer while on a camping trip I got burnt so badly that my body literally inflated and at points I couldn’t even move off the bed- AWFUL. So after about 2 and 1/2 weeks of being down, I found myself with lost motivation and excuses upon excuses as to why I was ready to get back where I left off. I would go on little week long off-and-on spurts of a fitness/health kick, but didn’t tell anyone and didn’t have a support system like I previously had, so I never actually stuck with anything- and sadly, never ran that 5K. And now two years later I am determined to make this change of a healthier lifestyle FOR GOOD. So, in order for me to stick with something I have to let others know that I am changing my lifestyle…a sort of “eyes are watching me” kind of thing.
I figure there are a lot of other women out there like me- wanting to make a change, but just not quite having the motivation to start or stick with it. Ask any woman, and my guess is, she will have a desire to shed some pounds or get in better shape. There are always a ton of available excuses we make- no time for a long work out, no sitter to watch the kids, no money for a gym membership, no equipment at home, blah blah blah. We all know those are just excuses for us to clutch onto and avoid facing our fears of actually doing something. If it’s important to us and we want it badly enough, we make the sacrifices. Another part of the problem is that we don’t have that support system or encouragement from others to join us in making this change. Schedules don’t always work to allow us to get together for a workout, or different skill levels make us feel uncomfortable working out with someone else, or we surround ourselves with people who are also making excuses or just don’t care, so we become complacent. These have all been problems for me when it comes to working out and eating healthier. Anyone who knows me knows I hate running and I love food- primarily unhealthy food, and quite honestly, many of the people I am around are the same, or maybe like I do around others, they justify poor choices only around me because somebody else is making a poor choice. The difference is, they either work out to compensate their food choices, or they are naturally thin, or they just have a better metabolism- I wish I was them, but I am not, so I HAVE to make a change see to see a change. That change started privately for me this week and now I hope to gather that support system to keep the change going publicly, not just for myself but for others who also want to make the change. And so is the birth of the Ladies Daily 100 Workout Group.
This is a private ladies only group I started on Facebook to get others to join me in what I have been doing on the workout front and become sources of motivation and encouragement for each other. By joining, group members are essentially committing to doing the Daily 100 Workout each day (hence the title). The workout is just an image I found online and really liked so decided to try it out this week. I ended up liking how simple, yet kick-in-the-butt it was. It takes me around 30 mins. to do, doesn’t require any equipment (although I use our treadmill, it’s not required) or me to go to a gym since it can be done in my living room (a huge plus for all busy people and moms).
For now I am doing this as is, just prior to restarting my Couch-to-5K program each night (I incorporate the Daily 100′s 10 minutes of running as a part of my 5K training), but eventually I will add in weights with the Daily 100. Along with the fitness component, I have been making healthier life style choices. It is time for me to cut out the chips, the fast food, and “snacking when I’m not even hungry“. And the one final push I know I need to do to stick with this is share with my Ladies Daily 100 Workout group a picture of myself with my weight (similar to Biggest Loser weigh-in). If I know I’ve got people watching me, I can not let myself fail.
“Eat for the body you want, not the body you have.” -unknown
If you are a lady reading this blog I hope you will join us in making the change to the Ladies Daily 100 Workout lifestyle. See the description below and click to here to join. And please share the link with your girl friends so that they can join in too!
“Whether you are out of shape or in shape, young or old, have lots of time or barely any time, doing this simple workout everyday will be a positive health and fitness step in your life. If you ask any woman, chances are she wants to lose weight or get in better shape. So often those goals of doing so are pushed to the wayside because of loss of motivation due to either lack of time, skills, stamina, or other various reasons. This daily workout plan is simple enough that everyone should be able to keep up with it, with the help and support of fellow ladies in this group. Even if you already have your own work out plan you do, you can add in this one for a little extra push.
This group is a private, members only and ladies only, place to share our stories and photos of progress, challenges, and successes on here as we strive to make this a part of our daily lifestyle and encourage and support each other along the way. Only group member can see each other’s posts and pictures. We can also use this page for posting helpful fitness links, healthy recipes, and motivational pieces to keep each other moving.
So let’s join together all students, working professionals, moms (even kids can join along!), or whatever your story is and make a difference in our own lives as we ladies group together to strive to be a better, healthier “me”. Invite your friends along for the journey too!
What is the hardest thing for you about living a healthier lifestyle?
Have you ever wondered if someone cares about you as much as you care about them? I find myself pondering this often. I believe myself to be a fairly confident individual, but I do know that I often require quite a bit of assurance from others. In my marriage and friendships I love so strongly. I try to give every ounce of me to those people to ensure they know I care. I value friendship so greatly. While I have a very large number of Facebook “friends”, as is the case for many of us, the bulk of those are really just acquaintances and people we know- which I think is A-ok, as I still care about all of those people. But, in actuality, I have very few friends, and an even fewer amount of close friends. I prefer to keep my close friends to a minimum because I want to be able to adequately manage those relationships and give them my best. Something I have a hard time dealing with is thinking that others don’t value my friendship, or me, as much as I do them, that it looks like a one-sided friend. I often think that they don’t put in as much effort. However, that isn’t necessarily the case.
We all have different love languages. And as someone who studied and did much of my graduate research on love styles and gender differences, I realize I have been failing to pay attention to love languages outside of my own feminized view of love- through words. It’s important that in any of our relationships- romantic, familial, or friendly, we take the time to get to know each other and how the other gives and feels loved. The problem is that we tend to love others the way we want to be loved, rather than how they like to be loved. I encourage you to go take the love languages assessments. See what your’s are and get to know which ones are that of those you love.
If you are married and wanting to apply these to your marriage relationship take this one. And for singles, or friendship application, take this one. The highest numbers are your dominant styles- the dominant ways you feel (and most likely tend to give) love. My results are below:
My Scores – With my friends I very much value them using words to express to me that I am their friend and that I matter to them- thus the reason I care so much about cards filled up with writing, FB comments/wall posts/messages, and them telling me how much they care. A few of my close friends do them; these are the friends I never question their friendship. But even several of my closest friends, even my best friend, I question because they do not show their love in this way, or at least not as much as I do. Gifts are also important to me, but not the kind that are a quick buy with little to no thought. But, rather the kind that show they know who I am and they took the time to think about me- and the best gifts are those with words, as I view words of affirmation as a gift.
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Just as these are important to me to make me feel loved, I show my love in this way. I can’t imagine any of my friends questioning whether I care about or love them because of how much I express it with my words and little thoughtful gifts, but if these are not their styles, as hard as it may be to believe, they may question it. I want to know their love languages so I can be better at showing them love in their ways.
My Scores- My results are quite similar with my top 3 being the same, but the difference is that I really don’t ever question my husband’s love for me since he does such a GREAT job of loving me the way I need to be loved. I have never received a card from him where “white space” wasn’t completely all filled up with his words of affirmation. And he is the best gift-giver, with thoughts of me in every almost every gift (there was the one “oops” Twizzler time).
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|1||Acts of Service|
So, this whole blog post came about because this weekend someone, who I consider to be one of my closest friends in my small circle of actual friends, made a little gesture that I took for granted at first but then realized how much it meant to me the next day. This is one of the friends I always find myself questioning or being disappointed about, not really knowing if I mean anything to them or as much as they mean to me, because words of affirmation is apparently not their thing. We were having folks over to hang out. People often bring things with them- all things of which I don’t like (and they know I don’t like). Well, this person also brought iced tea. I LOVE iced tea- it’s pretty much my favorite thing ever ; ) Even though this was a gift (my love language), my response was that it was a brand I don’t like and I made an ill-face. I am SO rude! This is the first time they (at least on their own accord) have given me a gift and I reacted so inappreciatively. I realized the next morning how much it meant to me that they thought of me, and who I am, enough to do such a kind gesture. I complain that they don’t show they care. Perhaps I am just too selfish or busy to see it sometimes since they don’t use words. And then thinking back on this friendship there have been other times as well that went unrecognized by me. Sure words of affirmation are far and few from this person even though they get tons from me, but they are in their own ways showing they care. And, after having a glass of that iced tea I realized I like it after all : )
It is my goal to figure out how I can better love those around me according to the ways they want/need to be loved. So, hopefully I can convince some of my friends to let me know what their love languages are : )
Raise your hand if you like garage sales. (My hand is raised!). Raise your hand if you care about making a difference in this world. (My hand is raised!).
This weekend is an opportunity to to do both at the same time! Awake & Alive is a non-profit organization whose mission is to “move individuals and communities from complacency to vibrancy, replacing a routine existence for a passionate and meaningful one in which people look beyond themselves to assist the poor, distressed, and underprivileged in the world around them.” Awake & Alive was founded by two mom’s who themselves have adopted, and want to help to make a bigger impact. As a Christian, and someone who feels a strong calling to adopt and hope to do so someday myself, this organization is important to me as well. For more information on this organization check on their Facebook Page and website.
This weekend Awake & Alive is holding their first fundraiser- a huge garage sale. People came together to donate items to go into the sale, and now we just need people to come together to go find their treasures! The sale is volunteer-run and all proceeds will be going to help start a school in Kechene, Ethiopia. This sale has something for everyone (clothing for all ages, toys, furniture, tools, home decor, electronics, and more). You can check out some pictures of the items collected so far and still coming in here. Please do find sometime to come out and shop for a good cause…or if you don’t need or find anything then you could certainly donate as well! I will be there to do some shopping myself and hope to see you there or read that went! Sale info is below:
This weekend, Friday June 3rd & Saturday June 4th, 8am-4pm, 18433 Mandi Lane Goshen IN
Raise your hand if you are going! (My hand is raised and I hope your’s is too!).
What is the best garage sale find your have scooped up? What causes are close to your heart?
In addition to teaching, I also have my small wedding planning business Unforgettable Day. I have been busy busy busy the last week (thus the lack of blogging) with last minute timelining and prepping for my May 21st bride. This weekend I had the pleasure of coordinating a truly impressionable event. In my 4 years now of planning I have seen a lot of different things with the weddings I’ve done. From every wedding I go to, including the ones I coordinate, I always pull away something that I like about each. Many times I pull away quite a few things, as was the case this weekend with the Kitto-Chomer wedding. Whether you are planning your own wedding right now or are just
obsessed interested in weddings, below are my Top 10 things I loved/found really intriguing, unique, and brag-worthy about this weekend’s wedding.
In no particular order:
1) Color Choices- Thinking of electric blue, bright orange, and yellow as one’s wedding colors does not initially sound “appetizing” to me. However, after seeing these colors at work, I found myself pleasantly surprised at how much I really liked the wedding’s color choices. They integrated them beautifully into the ceremony (from programs, to flowers, to dresses- love the non-traditional move from white to color for flower girl dresses!, to shoes, etc), but left them out at the reception- an idea which I really liked too. I’ve always seen the same colors carry over from the ceremony to the reception decor- why not change it and have two different concepts! Great idea!
2) Guest “Book”- This bride knew she didn’t want the standard guest book (who does these days!?!). I love something different, and this is exactly what they did. Instead of a traditional guest book they had a thumb print sign-in where guests “Leaf” their mark on a tree mural. Very innovative!
3) Bride’s One-of-a-Kind Bouquet- Wow! This bouquet literally took my breath away. It is with out question, the most beautiful and unique bridal bouquet I’ve ever seen. The bride likes “vintage eclectic” so chose to incorporate jewels and brochures from her family- what a meaningful idea! It even weighed so much she actually chose to place it on display in a vase during the ceremony instead of handing it to her maid of honor to hold (another unique idea!). Huge Kudos to Camille’s of Bristol for their great work!
4) Bride’s Hair- The bride’s hair looked absolutely gorgeous! It was so simple and classy. And the added jewel piece was just icing on the
cake do. She just looked stunning.
5) Bride’s Dress Accessory- I fell in love with the bride’s added floral belt ribbon piece she added to her dress. It looked so great and really added a something extra special to her dress, especially with the slightest pop of yellow in it. What a great idea for making a dress even more “you”. Oh, and the bright orange shoes were definitely a perfect accessory too!
6) Bridesmaids/Flower Girls Flowers- I’ve seen a lot of variations on flower style ideas- from traditional bouquets to a few flowers to a single flower, to flower balls, etc.- but this was the 1st time I’ve seen a bride opt for wrist corsages for bridesmaids and beautifully decorated “flower pots” for the flower girls. While not something many brides would necessarily want to do, I thought it was a great way to be different, still have fresh flowers and save some costs so the money could be spent elsewhere, and it just looked good for the pictures as well. And, since they didn’t throw flowers down the aisle, what a great momento for the flower girls to keep with the flowerpot choice.
7) Ring Bearer Sign- These days it is rare to actually see a ring bearer carrying down the rings on a traditional pillow (or carrying the rings at all!). Again, I have seen some different twists on this, but I love the choice of having him carry a beautiful (and perhaps, homemade? -not sure) sign down the aisle “announcing” the bride and then flipping for the recessional to proclaim “Happily Ever After”. Such a cute idea!
8 ) Reception Decor- Again, another breath-taking moment! The reception was held at Bread & Chocolate’s new venue space at The Old Bag Factory. I’ve been to a couple of weddings here in the past, and it is just a great space for smaller sized reception. But, never have I seen the place look this beautiful! There were several things I loved about the decor that created a perfect atmosphere for the bride and groom and their guests. When you walked in they had a unique clothesline where guests found their table numbers- it was a gorgeous display with more family momentos. They also had a beautiful sweetheart table, another family heirloom. The thing I loved most about this decor though, was the all white theme. Each of the tables was adorned with beautiful (I need a new word!) unique center pieces of china or some variation of, and filled with fresh flowers. From the ceilings hung white lights and more white decor. You just had to see this place in person!
9) Special Dances- When the bride said she was planning to offer a dance for ALL fathers & daughters and a dance for ALL mothers & sons I was surprised. I had never seen this done, only the traditional ones for the bride & her father and groom & his mother. WHAT A GREAT IDEA! I loved it! It isn’t often that these kind of moments get to be shared- perhaps only on one’s wedding day. I found myself fighting back tears watching the parents and their children on the dance floor sharing that special moment- especially during the father-daughter dances since I never got to share this moment with my own father (I’ll post about that someday). It was just a heart-touching sight seeing these special dances.
10) Dessert & Candy Bar- It is not uncommon to have a dessert or candy bar these days, in fact it is very popular to do so. But, I have never seen both a dessert and candy bar as amazing as this one. Unfortunately, I forgot to get a picture of the whole dessert bar or whole candy bar (and was too busy and forgot to scope them out for myself!), but trust me, it was a sight- these pictures do not do justice!
*Oops, there’s one more thing!
11) “Photo Booth”- A few of the weddings I have done had photo booths; again, this is becoming more and more common. They add a fun element for the guests and yield great comedic memories when looking at all the crazy things people do behind the curtains (unfortunately, sometimes TOO aka inappropriate crazy). This photo booth was awesome! Rather than an actual booth it was a photo station set up by their photographers Ashley Dru in the back corner of the room with a sofa and solid wall behind it and a basket of “goodies” for guests to play dress-up and bring out their silly-sides. Or if you are like me, guests could just take normal photos sans the get-up (what a great addition for couples or families who want a professional picture while they are all dressed in their “
Sunday Saturday Best”. So whether for fun or for formal, this photo station was a super idea! Oh, and the huge camera umbrella really just added to the vintage feel! Unfortunately, I didn’t snag a snap at this but here is the awesome power duo running it.
In addition to all of these faves from the wedding I must also add that there was just so many nice guests! I really really enjoyed chatting with the couple’s family and friends- especially the 7 extra special ones who just made my job even better by showing such kindness to me and to my husband (who accompanied along for the rehearsal dinner and reception). It truly was a great pleasure to be a part of the Kitto-Chomer wedding weekend! Congrats to Mr. & Mrs. Chomer!
Which of my faves from their wedding really caught your attention? What special things have you loved at weddings?
I am a lover of traditions and rituals. There is just something so something special about repeating and creating meaning in doing something every day, week, month, year, etc. Knowing that there is that thing that is consistent and you know you can always count on can be incredibly beneficial to your mental/social being. And, I crave having things on my calendar to look forward to. Traditions can either start accidentally after noticing unplanned repetition of behavior or they can be intentional by deciding to start something new. I have some of both kind in my life. I absolutely love my friends and try to spend as much time with them as soon as possible. In these friendships we share several traditions that I really look forward to and add to the quality of my life and our relationships. With my best friends we have a weekly or bi-weekly lunch tradition and a Christmas- gift specific- giving tradition. With some of my other friends a few years ago we went camping and starting and annual summer camping trip tradition. And with some other friends we have an annual Smoky Mountain cabin spring break trip.
For the last several years my Delta Gamma sorority sisters and I have been saying we need to get together again. This weekend, after 3 years of talking about it, we finally made it happen! We went to Grand Rapids for a girls get-a-way and had so much fun just bonding with each other and getting away from the norms of our everyday jobs, relationships, schedules, and well…..restaurants! In additions to the shopping, downtown walking, comedy club, and seeing Bridesmaids (SO FUNNY!), we spent a lot of time trying out all the wonderful restaurants GR has to offer. (I ate more food this weekend than one should ever consume…so much I actually got sick!) So after a great drama-free time we decided we need to do this trip every year- picking new places each time. I am beyond thrilled to add this new tradition to my mental calendar of things to look forward too.
This trip got me motivated. For sometime I have been wanting to start a tradition similar to that of a group of celeb moms I follow on twitter. Denise Richards, Ali Landry, Ali Sweeney, Tori Spelling, Brooke Burke, Kyle Richards, Lisa Rinna, and Candace Bure get together every month for their girls/moms supper club. They take turns hosting and choose different themes, and then each person brings something to share. They usually can’t all make it, but each time there is a mixture of 5-6 of them. I think it is so great that they make time to all get together- especially with being in such a busy industry. I would love to do something similar, but instead of it being a supper club, rotate each month- craft night, game night, pot-luck night, go out to dinner night, apps night, etc. that way there is a variety of things to keep it fresh. If the celebs can find time, I would like to think we can find the time too. So, after a wonderful weekend and starting a new tradition I am going get into action and start this new “club”. If you are interested in the information, let me know on here, FB, email, text, ect.
What tradition(s) do you have with your friends? Or, what new tradition(s) would you like to start with your friends?